I don't like to criticize others parenting skills because it is so difficult and lord knows I've f'd it up a few times BUT parents do need to take it off auto-pilot. Self expression should not mean bad manners. I know I could go on but I will stop there.
I agree that parenting is one of the most difficult jobs we'll ever have. But atrocious manners masquerading as self-expression is just plain laziness by the parents. That, or simply a reflection of their own personalities.
i can criticize freely because i don't have children. this particular website caters to folks who are fed up with parents being inappropriate with their children and not thinking twice about it. for instance, taking babies to bars because they need a night out- and apparently don't want to waste their beer money on a babysitter. or letting them run around restaurants screaming and tripping the waitstaff- or letting them run amok in a store. my steely stare makes the kids stop- but the parents are oblivious. children are not accessories- they are human beings.
I agree to a point but being a parent of 3 very different children the same rules don't always apply. I expect my children to behave and have manners in the real world. People judge by looks which isn't always correct. I've had people say that they can't believe how polite my son is. Like because he has a tongue ring and can rap takes away from manners. On parents taking kids to a bar they were probably to young to have children in the first place. You know I could go on but I won't
I could probably start a whole new blog about this subject but I'll try to keep it short. I'm over 60 so I was raised with the Golden Rule. "Do unto others, etc"> But more importantly, we didnt watch TV or listen to the radion except on weekends....sometimes. We played outside with our friends or at home with each other or did stuff with our parents. I agree with the last comment. Our children have lost their ability to imagine. The information age has rendered them unable to think. I posed a question to a fifth grade math class; If eggs were to cost 12 cents per dozen, how much would 100 eggs cost. It took the entire class over five minutes of silence before one student finally said...questioningly, one dollar? No blame game being played here. I just think parents have to step up and get involved with their kids more.
>>Children, for the most part, are a reflection of their parents.We often blame the public school system for our children's failings...they are there to educate our kids (blame them if they can't do math)...but we are the ones who are meant to be the parents of children.Don't create one if you don't know what the hell to do for the next 18 yrs or so...
Unless having children, is your greatest joy, don't do it.
I think a lot of that post was not just about children but how we as adults treat one another. Holding the door open for someone, smiling and acknowledging someone’s presence, saying thank you, getting up on the subway or metro to let someone else have the seat, and doing the little things that were once the most important things, which was common courtesy. I guess I am lucky. I have always been as big or bigger than those around me, and in Europe, I was a lot bigger than those around me. I have always shown people the common courtesies that many have forgotten, and I can get away with it. I can remember being in Italy and getting up from my seat on a tram to let an older woman sit, and maybe because I could only speak English and Spanish she couldn’t understand that I wanted her to take the seat, but it looked like I was offering the first caveman fire and telling him it was ok. I remember other people on the tram actually looking at me oddly. Show courtesy, don’t expect courtesy, and if you don’t get it, don’t let it bother you, but when you do acknowledge someone for doing something they didn’t have to.
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