Sunday, April 30, 2006

parenting- what it should be

i have a friend who recently converted to orthodox judaism with her family. now, i am sure that we disagree on the religious issue(but she still manages to be my friend) but i am pretty sure that we agree on parenting. now, you may find that odd as she has 4 now and i have none- but it is true. a recent post on her blog- simplicity- confirms what i already knew from child #1(the incomparable miss r)- my friend not only loves her children but she sees them as people. her comment was that her youngest was now 3 months old and they have loved getting to know the person that he is. i think that is important. he isn't just some cute baby to pack around and show off- he isn't a toy or accessory- he is a real person and they want to know him as such- and the other 3 too. that is the other thing- they have had 5 children and each is as precious and loved as any other. why- because they are people and they are a family. thank you, my friends.

3 comments:

pinkfem said...

Ahh, kids, the most disruptive force in the universe...you can't live with them, you can't lock the rugrats in the attic anymore, at least without a visit from the Sheriff.

billie said...

i, personally, don't want children- nor does my husband. i am too selfish to want to give that much of myself to another. i am a decidedly 'untouchy-feely' person. thus, my perspective. however, i don't think that that disqualifies me from having an opinion on the matter(god forbid!). having said that- i agree with pinkfem :)

billie said...

one of the main reasons we didn't have kids. i tried to help the broken kids i worked with on a daily basis be viable, productive, successful members of society- no thanks to their families. i could not imagine coming home to my own and having anything left. not to mention that my eggs are old now. who wants to take a chance in the crapshoot of conceiving. my kid would probably be a serial killer anyway. :)