i apologize in advance if that song gets stuck in your head. :) this post is supposedly going to be about relationships but i have a feeling i will go off on a tangent or two or five. i will start by saying that i keep my life small deliberately. hubby and i made a conscious decision a few years ago to pare things down and live more simply- and it is an ongoing process. we still have too much stuff for two grown people- but we are working on it. i try to prioritize keeping things that we love or will use- like books or a vase my mother gave me. things in our apartment, for the most part, have meaning to us or we use it. spring cleaning time is coming around again- and it is a good time to purge those cmas presents we got that were too ugly to regift and we couldn't take them back. :) anyhoo- i said that to make the point of me prioritizing and keeping things simple.
i got together yesterday with a woman i have known since junior high. through thick and thin- she stuck the friendship out through sheer willpower. we have never had much in common- ever- except maybe our love of patrick swayze circa 1987. :) so, here we are 20 years later and we have less in common than ever. she doesn't do subtlety and i don't want to be mean when the only crime she has committed is being annoying and i have nothing to talk to her about. it really doesn't help matters either that she seems to be stuck in 1989 and our senior year in high school. sigh. i had a 'grown up' talk with her a year and a half or so ago- about being able to communicate about things other than music and soap stars and she was shocked and apparently cried after she got home (did i mention she tends towards melodrama?) sigh.
anyhoo- i don't contact her and i think she does me only out of habit. not that she doesn't like me for me- and it isn't that she isn't nice- i guess what i am saying is- i expect more from the relationships i choose to have in my life. she has a smaller life than mine and we don't share common interests- so conversation is difficult. so- how does one go about breaking up with a friend whose only 'crime' is being shortsighted and boring? and who apparently doesn't think big enough thoughts to wonder why she always has to call me?