"...and i heard him exclaim as he drove out of sight, 'merry christmas to all and to all a good night.'" i have been noticing the same music being played by many of the folks i run into- on the internets and in 'real life'- and it's- not feeling the magic this year. haven't started shopping or cooking or baking or decorating yet. my response is- why bother? now, i am not a humbug. trust me- non christian or no- i love this time of year. i love the whole 'season'- from the feasting at t-giving to the feasting at cmas- i am there. i usually put the ole music on and cook and bake and thoroughly enjoy myself. not so much this year. so- with a h/t to dez and her post at the sirens- here are my thoughts on cmas:
stop! just stop it. stop buying into the consumerism and the falsehoods that we need to have 100 presents per person. just stop buying. we all talk about our memories of tight cmases in the past- with charlie brown trees and how our parents scrimped to get us a special gift- often going without themselves and us not knowing it. we talk about the food and the joy and the weather- and the food and have a great time reminiscing. so- why is there such a fucking disconnect? just because many of us aren't scrimping and scraping like our folks did- or maybe we are- why should we treat our kids and family any differently? why should they miss out on happy memories and get bought off? isn't that really what we are doing? well, we don't want to put the effort into making a clark griswold good ole fashioned family cmas- so we'll buy you a 100 things to compensate. wouldn't that money not be better spent on a trip to extended family or bringing them to you? or wouldn't that money be better spent on memory makers? instead of working longer hours to make more money for the holidays- taking a day off to make cookies with your kids? it doesn't make sense to me. why sit there and bemoan the holidays year after year- why not change them? take a moment to dust off your old memories and think about why you loved the season way back when- and try to make it about more than the gifts for your loved ones. the celebrations were not put in place as a sort of penance or obligation- they were put in place to celebrate the season. if you don't want to celebrate- then don't. that's ok too. many folks don't have a whole lot to celebrate this year- and really- why force it?
too many folks aren't realizing that you don't have to celebrate cmas. buddhists don't. jews don't. muslims don't. athiests don't. hindus don't. you get the point. give yourself permission to do as little or as much as you want. it's freeing and less stressful. stop! being a slave. take your own life back.