there is a tendency in this male dominated world to fall back on the same old chestnuts when there is a fear or threat: mistreat and limit women. i haven't figured out why men haven't figured out that women are people too. women fight and fight the same fight around the world- including america- for equality as a fellow human being. when are men going to figure it out? even so called 'enlightened' men who allegedly love their wives- look the other way or ignore completely the limits and erosion of basic human rights for the other half of the human equation.
you can blame culture and you can blame tradition but what it boils down to is men need to stand up for the women in their lives. i have a hard time thinking that iranian women would be interrogated and mistreated and jailed for peaceful assembly if their husbands and brothers and fathers and uncles and sons stood up for them. i have a hard time thinking that the supreme court of america would be trying to reverse roe v. wade one case at a time if the husbands and brothers and sons and uncles of american women weren't complicit through silence and/or votes. i have a hard time believing that we would have to have day of awareness of cyberstalking of women- if the above mentioned folks didn't view women as convenient outlets of hostility and hatred release.
it is easy to blame sharia law in islam for the horrible way that women in the middle east are treated, but who carries it out so self importantly? it is easy to blame the right wing evangelicals and other right wing christian groups in the western world for the continued discrimination of women in the workforce and in the home, but who is discriminating? women do try and fight back and still make less in america than men for the same job- and still do the lion's share of housework and childrearing. women who fight back in the middle east and make strides have acid thrown in their face or are beaten and stoned to death. or- beaten and jailed.
i don't know what it is that is so difficult to grasp that women are people- i mean the majority of the couples on this planet are heterosexual so that means that men sleep next to their mate every night in intimate ways. men talk to their mate about personal matters and they create families. often there is genuine love for that mate. so- when push comes to shove- why aren't you defending her? i don't want to hear the whining from the male establishment about how i am bashing males. i am not. i love my husband and he loves me and i know that if ever i needed defending or he did- we would be there for each other.
my question is- would you be? if the right wing evangelicals rose to power in america, and suddenly women had to stay home and stay covered- with no access to the outside world without you to take her out- would you protest? or would you let it happen? would you go along with the law of the land? would you fight for your mate? would you fight for someone else's? how can you justify beating or mistreating your mate- in the name of religion? in the name of the law of the land? i am curious.