i doubt that i will win any popularity contests for this one- but hey, i am on a roll this week- so here goes it: america's biggest problem is its parents. no one really likes to voice that out loud for fear of offending anyone- but i have no such fear. now, please, don't misunderstand- i am not saying that parenting is easy. it isn't- and shouldn't be. as a parent, you have chosen to be responsible for and teach-- another person- not an accessory- for the rest of his or her life. it isn't your right or an option to be your child's peer and it isn't your right or an option for you to be overindulgent and not teach him or her anything about how to live as a responsible, productive member of society. but- that is just what america's parents are doing.
my thought is- the biggest threat to the american family is not gay marriage- its american parenting. parents are uninvolved emotionally or too involved emotionally. it is nature vs nurture gone awry. we don't teach manners and we don't set boundaries and the children in america don't have any sense of responsibility overall because we adults don't. the daily routine in many households is- little to no communication and lots of time apart. little interaction among family members apart from the daily chores. we are raising a group of kids who expect things to be done for them- and expect to be able to do what they want when they want it- because they have the time, the money and little supervision. i have seen it in my own community. hands off parenting. you know- the ones who yell at their kid from across the grocery store instead of teaching the child not to touch things? well, we are starting to pay the piper.
now, i realize that a number of panties will be in a twist- so before it gets too painful- i realize that some households do the best that they can. both folks have to work and sacrifice to scrape by. looking at america's highways and byways- and neighborhoods- i don't think that these folks are in the majority. i could be wrong and i welcome statistics to prove me such. no, it is about priorities. many in america- my own family included- have a dual income family to afford luxeries- like a big house or multiple cars or eating out or hobbies or whatnot. many of these families overindulge themselves and their offspring. no limits, no boundaries, no social skills- and being raised by a baby sitter- has resulted in a group of young people with no manners, no morals and no conscience. the rates of juvenile crime have risen over the last decade- and there is plenty of anecdotal information from kids misbehaving in grocery stores and restaurants to 'super nanny' on tv. for some reason, americans glorify the bratty child and parade him or her around as if on display. perhaps it is the new badge of wealth? i mean- look at paris hilton for heaven's sake. anyhoo- why the tirade? below are links that made me think- where are these kid's parents that 1) they would even think to do this and 2) have the free time to do this. gave me food for thought- you?
fort lauderdale, fl
beaten with a bat- 'bumfights' dvd- dr. phil vs ty beeson
vile teen fad
myspace beating video
teen fightclub video