Tuesday, August 16, 2011

trust me

the longer i live on this planet, the more it becomes abundantly clear that you cannot escape your past. it sounds cliche` but it is really true. i moved away from my hometown years ago and over the course of the last two months, i have been there more than in the previous 15 years or so...and the shack i called home and thought i had left for good- well, i still will have to deal with it as my parents still own it...

trust me when i say that you don't do your children a service by leaving them something...all parents want to- whether it be money or property or stuff...do your children a true favor and don't. really. the money is taxable, the property is a hassle to sell and the stuff either collects dust or ends up donated or thrown away...

believe when i say that your children would be more grateful if you made arrangements for your passing ahead of time and took care of the hows and whats before you pass...use your money for your retirement and probable health care needs so as not to burden them with the debt- really...

i don't want a single thing that my parents or my husband's parents have- not one. the fact that we have relationships with our parents on whatever level is enough for me...it is not a kindness or a help to your kids to leave them anything...memories- good ones without regrets- are more than enough...

3 comments:

The Future Was Yesterday said...

memories- good ones without regrets- are more than enough...
One can't control the formation of others' memories.

All too often, "memories" are interpreted as being material.

Georg said...

Well said, Betmo. And even if you inherit nothing material from your parents, no money, no property, you'll always get parts of their genes and health. You get it for free and you cannot refuse it.


Georg

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