"But I'm troubled by the fact that when I introduce my partner as something other than "partner," I'm consciously acknowledging the exclusivity of my relationship status. I'm linguistically detaching myself from the some 5.5 million cohabitating couples in the U.S. whose relationships are, in the eyes of the law, and in the eyes of many Americans, less valuable than mine. And I'm lauded for it."
yeah- i read the article- that is precisely why you chose to get married. but you knew that.