Wednesday, January 17, 2007

must be all of those gay people

i love my husband. i really enjoy spending my life with him, interacting with him, and sharing with him. however, if anything ever happened between us- divorce, death what have you- i would remain single. i am just not sure that i would want to share my living space with anyone else. apparently, i am not alone. couple my view with the folks who choose to remain single- i have at least 5 female friends who have chosen to remain single- and there is a trend here.

majority of us women live without spouse

6 comments:

Ponnarasi Kothandaraman said...

Nice decision :)

Short but thought provoking post...

dawn said...

I never thought of it. My dad died when I was 11 and my mom never remarried I always thought she should have. But it was her choice. I don't know what I'd do I've been married 21 years now and we lived together a year before that. I don't know if anyone else would be able to take me

Anonymous said...

Well, you do have a lot more "freedom" as a single woman...

I do want to share my life with someone, and I don't think I have to be married to do that. Neither of my parents remarried after divorce. I have a free-thinking mom who doesn't feel she has to have a man in her life (with the exception of friendship), and she instilled that in me as I grew up. I'm glad she did that.

And no, being single does not mean you are gay/lesbian. Yes, I have been accused of that before. It actually shocked me that someone would think that about me...someone I worked with. I just don't share a lot about myself to co-workers. My relationship with the people I work with is strictly professional. That incident just goes to show that there are shallow-minded, ignorant people in the world that spout off crap when they don't know all the facts.

Dizzy Dezzi said...

You know I was grown and single for ten years before I finally broke down and got married (I was a single mom for most of that). "Fate" had a lot more to do with my getting married than "true love" (got laid off of two jobs in 3 years, on and off welfare or church support trying to make ends meet in the same 3 year period. The timing of the proposal from someone I cared about and the loss of another job propelled me down the aisle...or rather to the courthouse). My husband and I have been on the verge of divorce for the last two years, but a combination of issues, including not having a desire to be the single mother to three kids keeps us together (thank goodness we get along as friends!)

After having experienced marriage, if there comes a time that I happen to experience the single life again (preferably thru divorce), I do not intend on ever joining in the bonds of matrimony, again.

Of course, hindsight is always 20/20 and truthfully, things could be worse...but that's another story for another day...

EAPrez said...

I am happily divorced. I will probably never remarry. Not much interested in signing on for someone elses baggage - and at my age, everyone will have some - exwives, kids, etc. Not worth the hassle.

AlaskaBaby said...

I'm with you betmo. I've been with my husband for 25 years thru major bad and great.
I couldn't take this ride again, tho I'm enjoying the bennies of having ridden...